The TOP Mistakes of Traveling Families
Top Mistakes of Traveling Families
NO matter how much you have dreamed and prayed and hoped for baby it is still a shock how much your life changes. It is stunning how someone so small can disrupt everything so much.
Fast forward a few years and now baby is mobile and has strong opinions! Toddler wigs out when the foods touch or the toast is ‘too brown’ or ‘not brown enough’. The cries of someone too tired or too hungry or just too….. something seem to echo. We have all been there!
Your visions of dinners out…and family vacations evaporate. What happened to your life? What happened to your dreams of traveling, exploring, and adventures? I felt really guilty at the time when I gazed down at my infant and wondered, “What have I done?” after sooo many days with no sleep or adult conversation or even a shower. LOL! Now I know that happens to everyone!
I can teach you how to take the kids on wonderful family adventures and enjoy it! I’ve taken kids to fancy quiet restaurants all over the world like Denver’s famous Sushi Den and museums like the Louvre in Paris. We not only have great meals and experiences but our kids enjoy it, too!
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The time to take your kids on family travels and journeys near and far is NOW. Learn how to teach your kids proper public behavior in a simple and painless way that would impress even your mother-in-law. ENJOY your diners out! But don’t make these common mistakes!
Top mistakes parents make:
Top mistakes of traveling families: Taking a hungry child …..anywhere.
Hungry kid = disaster. Don’t you get crabby when you are hungry? Of course you do! But, you are an adult and can control yourself and your environment by waiting or getting a snack! Children have no such control and worse….have no self control about letting you AND everyone else around them know they are hungry! Seriously- Snickers created an entire commercial campaign about this very thing in adults. Why should we expect kids to be happy and patient when they are hungry?
Top mistakes of traveling families: Taking a sleepy child….anywhere.
Do NOT skip nap time! All the books say to get kiddo used to sleeping in more than one spot and I absolutely agree. As soon as baby arrives start having them sleep in the bouncy chair or bassinet or carseat or stroller or baby bjorn. The advice you’ll read in books talks about routine – same bed, same bedtime story, same time, same place, same pjs, etc….but honestly that only works for people who have nannies- who can stay at home every single time kiddo needs to sleep. You can not sit in your house at the exact time for nap or bedtime for the next several years (more if you have more than one child) unless you want to die of boredom and feel like your life is over! Kids can adapt.
But an overtired child is NOT fun. Get that nap – somehow, somewhere!
True story: A friend, who shall remain nameless, had her adorable baby on the perfect schedule – always the same time, the same routine, the same bedtime story and song and she slept like a dream. Then, my friend decided when the baby was about 19 months they were ready to take her on a trip! They packed up kiddo and stuff and off they went. The kid WOULD. NOT. SLEEP. After too many hours in a row of toddler screaming bloody murder and no fun/sleep/peace…they headed back home. Toddler screamed the entire way and did not sleep ONE. SINGLE. WINK. till home in her own bed.
Note to self: Perfect routines aren’t always what they are cracked up to be.
Top mistakes of traveling families: Taking a bored child….anywhere.
Young children and even older children do not find sitting at a restaurant relaxing or fun or interesting. Museums without background knowledge of what you are looking at are dull – just rows and rows of paintings. Remember that crazy places like Chuck E Cheese was designed for them – anything else is boring. Bored kids act up!
How to avoid mistakes of traveling families!
Avoid the top mistakes of traveling families: Step number one!
Feed a hungry kid.
Firstly, my apologies to every grandmother out there who thinks that children need to wait for dinner and eat with everyone else, but if you want to have a nice peaceful dinner in a restaurant you need to make sure kiddo is not hungry when you arrive. I know that sounds counter to the concept of going to a restaurant – you know being hungry to begin with- duh, but everyone knows that hungry kids do not wait well. Hungry grown ups don’t either, but that is a whole different blog! LOL! Patience is a skill that comes with years and years of practice. Rome wasn’t built in a day so why should this skill be one mastered at such a young age? Who cares if kiddo has a snack before dinner? Mary Poppins does not work at your house!
Have snacks with you when you travel. Raisins or goldfish or chex mix is like magic in your bag. Dole them out by the handful when blood sugar is low! Healthy food snacking is perfectly OK!
Experts agree!! Ah, Parenting says….
“When kids are hungry, they’re hungry. It is a rare toddler who can wait until 6pm for dinner, and a rare working adult who can eat before 6pm. So my advice is to feed the child dinner when he needs it…”
Avoid the top mistakes of traveling families: Step number two!
Start with a rested child.
Have sleepy child nap….wherever and whenever and however it works! With my oldest I had to sit with the car idling once I arrived at my destination because even turning it off would wake her up – and no, she would not go back to sleep. Other times I drove round and round and round the neighborhood so she would get a nap. We parents do whatever it takes!! 🙂 No judgment from me on how kiddo naps- just get it done!
Avoid the top mistakes of traveling families: Step number three!
Bring something to keep kiddo busy.
Beautiful visions of children quietly chatting about their day and listening to you about yours for an entire dinner is right out of a fictional romantic movie – it just isn’t REAL.
When our oldest was 2, the ONLY time she ever used crayons was at a restaurant. This made crayons amazing and fascinating magical tools! Wonderful! Dollar store coloring books and crayons had her happily coloring while hubby and I had a peaceful dinner – as a family. ***Remember, dinner is not about the food, it is about the time spent together.
Travelers expect it! Cruise experts suggest activities for kiddos!
“…always bring a book or portable video game (as long as it can be used with headphones) to entertain fidgety kids…”
Busy activity suggestions for ages:
2-4 years old
crayons, playdoh, sewing cards, stickers
5-7 years old
mazes, search and find books, scissor practice, pipe cleaners
8-10 years old
story books, blank books for doodling, zentangle,
Don’t fight it. You are not alone. This is not a romantic time for two! Instead…lean into it. Savor it. Enjoy the brief moment’s of childhood you are witnessing.
Talk to the kids! Ask them about their day. Ask them to discuss what you saw in your traveling that day. Or, just pull out a list of topics for conversation and choose one!
Avoid the top mistakes of traveling families: How to talk to kids
Make sure they know they can answer.
Remember, kids are used to being talked ‘to’. They sit quietly at school while someone talks ‘to’ them. They sit at church while someone talks ‘to’ them. So, teaching them the give and take…back and forth of a conversation is a valuable school. Teach them they can answer, ask questions, and respond.
Make sure they know ‘I don’t know’ is an acceptable answer.
Having a conversation with family and loved ones is fun, warm, and you feel accepted. You don’t have the stress of having to have all the right answers. So, make sure your kids feel comfortable saying, “I don’t know’.
Make sure they feel safe to be wrong.
When kids feel comfortable talking with you, you might get a question that surprises you…perhaps about a topic that makes you feel uncomfortable. Traveling has you seeing things in the world that are new and open your eyes. Nude statues? Poverty? Keep your responses calm. Invite curiosity and let them know that no topics are off limits with you.
Encourage details. Ask them to tell you more. Ask questions that show you are listening and interested. Be your child’s fan. That warm feeling they get when you listen will be a wonderful memory they keep forever!
Avoid the top mistakes traveling families make: What to talk to kids about
Have fun and play games! My family loves movies so sometimes we choose a movie character and everyone else tries to guess which one by asking questions. Our version of the Twenty Questions game. Get more dinner table game ideas here.
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Happy family travels,
Natalie, The Educational Tourist